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As an alienated parent, you've likely endured the weight of judgment, criticism, blame, guilt, and shame unfairly placed upon your shoulders. It's crucial to recognize that you are a good parent, full of love and care, and the unjust alienation you're experiencing is a profound injustice. The alienating parent, often struggling with unresolved childhood trauma, re-enacts their false sense of victimhood through high-conflict divorce or separation. In their pathological mourning, they project their past disappointments, abandonment issues, and grief onto you, casting you as the 'abusive parent.'
"Parental alienation is a strategy whereby one parent intentionally displays to the child unjustified negativity aimed at the other parent. The purpose of this strategy is to damage the child's relationship with the other parent and to turn the child's emotions against that other parent."
Both borderline and narcissistic personality pathologies frequently contribute to alienating behaviors. Borderline individuals often grapple with an inner emptiness, seeking validation through attention and reacting with anger and blame. Meanwhile, narcissistic individuals harbor a void at their core, compensating with grandiosity and self-reverence. Alienated children become enmeshed in one parent's personality disorders, leading to the rejection of a loving, caring parent.
As the alienated parent, you are forced to grapple with the complex trauma resulting from the loss of a previously good, close relationship with your child. Simultaneously, the alienated child is torn between fear and loyalty toward the alienating parent.
It's vital to remember that the trauma inflicted upon you does not define who you are. Taking care of your emotional, mental, and psychological health is paramount. Just as putting on an oxygen mask during a crisis, you must attend to your well-being first. By being a stable, loving, and happy person and parent, you create a foundation for your child to return to when they, too, embark on their healing journey. Patience is key in this process. While your child is caught up in the web of alienation, they might not even realize the need for healing.
You are not alone in this struggle, and support is available to help you navigate this difficult journey. Seek help, build your resilience, and remember that healing is possible. Together, we can overcome the devastating effects of parental alienation and provide a brighter future for both you and your child.
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